Energetic Boundaries!

I know you have been there! Set a boundary, told someone no, felt you were clear where the line in the sand was and then BOOM, the line was crossed again! What is up with that!?!

I was definitely what I would call a boundaryless wonder thirty years ago. You might as well have called me a Genie in a bottle, because every demand or command you had was a wish that I felt I needed to fulfill for you! I never even had the thought to think otherwise. It took a therapist in my 30’s to point out just how often others crossed an invisible line that I was supposed to have but did not even know was supposed to exist.

Learning what a boundary is should be step number one. Then learning what your boundaries are for yourself should be step number two. Then being interested enough to know the boundaries of others is the next natural step.

What is a Boundary? A boundary is physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual nature, establishing limits to protect yourself from being abused, manipulated, used, or walked over. A boundary establishes defining lines of respect, value, and tells others what your energy system will allow or not allow! Respect of boundaries feels good, feels respected. Disrespect of boundaries does not feel good and feels disrespected. Often we only know we do not feel good and do not know why. Learning to know what your boundaries are helps you to bring that clarity to others when helping them to know who you are and how you define yourself.

Self-boundary is learning to set boundaries with your own behaviors. When your own body wants to act out, or feels entitled to explode in rage all over others, is a good indicator that you do not have inner boundaries. Eating an entire cake to yourself, over drinking, drugging, gambling, or sexual addiction are also signals that you struggle to set boundaries with yourself. When you can not set boundaries for yourself you will tend to attract a relationship that is either way over controlling to try and help you set boundaries or they too have no boundaries and neither of you can move very far in life.

Learning the boundaries of others and respecting them is easier to establish once you understand what a boundary is, and you can take responsibility for setting boundaries with yourself, then you become curious what those around you consider boundaries. Once you understand another’s boundaries then you know the rules of engagement. Meaning, you can enjoy your relationship with them because you know what to expect and what they expect.

I learned a lot about text book boundaries, such as do not touch without permission. When I say no, I mean no. Be clear and honest with myself and others. Do not make assumptions. Do not commit me to doing something that you did not ask me about first. These are just a few basics boundaries, but energetics can be very different. Meaning, you might say no, but your energy field is is weak, and the individual can tell that they can just walk right through your energy field anyway.

During our Global Pandemic there is a list of boundaries that are different for everyone. Some people want you to wear masks, others, want no masks, some people get upset if you stand within 10 feet and others want to hug and think the virus is a hoax. So it is great to establish with yourself what your boundaries are around the coronavirus so you can let others know what to expect. Even within our own family, we all have different ideas of what our personal space means around the virus.

Violence and boundaries has been all over the news this week. The police handling of George Floyd clearly crossed boundaries. We have laws and rules to establish social boundaries, legal boundaries and then those boundaries are crossed. It becomes less clear, how to work with violent boundaries. We often hear that it is all about love, but violence that crosses boundaries cuts through the energy field like a machete! We can not see the energy field has been destroyed but we can certainly feel it. When our physical body has been cut we go to the hospital to get stitches, but when our energy field is cut, we can feel very sick and not know why.

At a global level, the earth has boundaries as well. Global warming is one of the ways the earth and our atmosphere shows us that boundaries have been crossed. When those earth boundaries are not longer respected there is an imbalance and then the earth responds in natural disasters. Natural disasters are the earth’s way of re-establishing healthy boundaries and respect. Just like you might become enraged after someone has crossed a boundary one too many times with you. Once that individual or group see’s just how mad you were, they think twice before crossing you again.

Energetic Boundaries and Respect is missing in our world. Re-establishing those respectful boundaries for everyone equally is where we are going. The riots and protest are our communities of color, saying, hey, you all have crossed our boundary one too many times and now we are done! It lets those who have abused the boundaries know they are being checked and it is now time to back it up, back it way up!

Boundaries actually show up in the energy field as strong, resilient, or thin and weak. No matter what you might think in your head or feel in your gut as setting a boundary, it will show up in your energy field if you have the energy or not to back up what you say. We all know someone in our life that when they walk into a room their energy field speaks, don’t f**k with me! You do not even toy with the idea of crossing a boundary with them. So what makes the difference? Your strong intentions make the difference.

Setting up protection in your energy field can look very different to each person. I remember once, a client who was very ill. She felt weak, had no reserves, and felt weighed down. She was so ill that she had to take a leave from her job. When I looked at her energy field, I could see a huge thick metal tank of energy completely surrounding her aura. After infusing the area with healing energy, it began to dissolve and the client felt better right away. She later explained as a defense attorney, the courtroom could be an energetic battle field. Yet her clever idea of protection, made her very ill.

Energy protection must have a component of also being permeable. Meaning your aura filters out negative or toxic energy but your aura also allows through to your body healthy energy as well as intuitive vibes to assist you to make decisions. If you over protect yourself, you can block vital life giving energies from coming in and toxins from getting out.

White light is another energy that clients often will use to surround themselves by. White light can be considered the light of God, the creator. Actually any color can add a level of resilience to your energy field and you can change colors every day depending on the situation. It is your intention that is most important. I am surrounding myself with the blue light of the divine to express sacred respect as it filters out hatred, is an example of surrounding your self with light combined with your thoughts.

In my experience, being well grounded is your best defense. Deep grounding to the center of the earth, allows gravity to pull out excess cloudy energy out of your aura. Your aura also gains a thicker membrane between you and others when you are well grounded. Being well grounded also draws more of your spirit into your physical body and human energy field. The brightness of your own soul, radiating through the different bodies, repels negativity.

We teach our students to use what is called a boundary rose.

Rose (Rosa)The rose is sacred and it holds one of the highest vibrational frequencies in plants. It dispels toxins and negativity while bringing passion to your home and life. This beautiful flower holds a tremendous energetic disposition to bring love into your heart. Therefore, it can repel dark or dense energy, and enhance the frequency of love.

In this video, I will guide you through a meditation so that you can create your own experience to learn by.