(How to Stop Resisting and Start Trusting Your Soul)
Are you ready to get out of your own way? In this blog post, let’s explore how to stop resisting and start trusting your own soul. Have you ever known exactly what you wanted to do — but couldn’t bring yourself to do it?
You could feel the pull of your purpose, the excitement, maybe even the relief of imagining life on the other side…
And yet, you froze.
You start to rationalize.
“I’ll do it when I have more time.”
“I need a plan first.”
“What if I get it wrong?”
Those sound like reasonable thoughts — but if we’re honest, ‘they’re fear wearing logic’s clothing.‘
Getting out of your own way doesn’t mean forcing yourself to be brave. It means becoming aware of the inner tug-of-war between your protective mind and your courageous soul — and learning how to let the soul lead again.
The Deeper Pattern: When the Mind Protects and the Soul Expands
For most of us, the mind’s first language is safety. It’s designed to analyze, predict, and protect us from pain. Over time, it catalogs every hurt we’ve ever known and quietly warns, “Don’t let that happen again.” This protective voice isn’t your enemy—it’s your ancient guardian, formed in the moments when you needed to survive. But what once kept you safe may now be keeping you small. The soul, by contrast, speaks a completely different language—the language of expansion. It thrives in the unknown and pulls you toward experiences that awaken, stretch, and sometimes terrify you. The soul doesn’t rely on logic; it moves through resonance, synchronicity, and the intuitive “yes” that doesn’t always make sense on paper. When these two forces meet—the mind as protector and the soul as pioneer—you feel the tension we call resistance. It’s not a sign that you’re broken or unmotivated. It’s the energetic moment right before transformation—the point where you’re being asked to get out of your own way and step into the larger life your soul is calling you toward. Read this other article on the right questions to ask to help assist you to get out of your own way. Watch my YouTube talk on this subject, where I share many of my own personal stories that led me to get out of my own way.
🧠 Science Meets Soul: What Happens When You Resist
Psychologists have studied these same inner dynamics for decades — they just use different words.
Below is a way to see how human psychology, neurobiology, and energy consciousness describe the same struggle in their own languages:
| Concept | What It Means | When You Resist | Energetic / Soul Perspective |
| Repression | The mind pushes uncomfortable feelings into the unconscious to avoid pain. | Emotional numbness, tension, and self-sabotage; the feeling of “stuck.” | Energy becomes compacted in the field — heavy, dull, or blocked. Healing comes when light (awareness) returns. |
| Resistance | Defending against change to stay safe and familiar. | Procrastination, avoidance, rationalization. | Resistance is simply energy saying, “I’m not ready yet.” When met with compassion, it loosens and flows. |
| Ironic Process (Thought Suppression) | The harder you try not to feel or think something, the more it intensifies. | Mental looping, anxiety, and exhaustion. | Energy amplifies what you resist — like pressing on a spring; release happens through allowance, not control. |
| Intuition | Rapid, non-conscious pattern recognition guided by the body and emotions. | Ignoring it weakens self-trust and heightens doubt. | Your inner navigation system — a language of vibration rather than logic. |
| Shadow (Jungian) | The disowned parts of self that we’ve judged or hidden. | Triggers, projection, imposter syndrome. | The shadow isn’t evil; it’s unintegrated power waiting to be reclaimed. |
| Sublimation / Transformation | Converting instinctual or repressed energy into creativity or purpose. | Freedom, vitality, and authenticity return. | The alchemy of turning fear into life force, density into light. |
Each of these patterns speaks to the same core truth: when we hold back, our energy folds inward. When we listen inwardly — when we dare to trust that subtle guidance — the energy unfolds again.
The Energetics of Holding Back
Energetically, holding back feels like standing in a rushing river, trying to stop the current with your hands. You might manage for a moment, but the effort is exhausting. The water—your own life force—builds pressure behind the dam, and that pressure often shows up as anxiety, fatigue, brain fog, or even physical aches. The irony is that the moment you stop resisting and allow yourself to flow, strength returns. The same energy that once powered your fear is actually the very energy that fuels your freedom. Every time you override an intuitive nudge, a small energetic knot forms within your field. Multiply that over the years, and it’s no wonder we end up feeling heavy, confused, or uninspired. Yet the instant you begin to listen again, those knots start to unravel, and light begins to move freely through you. Getting out of your own way isn’t about control—it’s about surrender. Not the kind of surrender that collapses your will, but the sacred, holy exhale that allows your soul to take the wheel and carry you forward with grace.
🌟 Action Steps: How to Gently Move Out of Your Own Way
1. Catch the Moment of Hesitation
Awareness is always the first bridge to change. The moment you feel yourself hesitate—when your breath shortens or your mind begins to spin stories about why something won’t work—pause. Don’t rush past it or label it as procrastination, laziness, or fear. Simply notice it. In that still space, ask yourself, “Is this my soul expanding or my mind protecting?” That one question can instantly shift your inner landscape. It invites curiosity instead of judgment, compassion instead of control. The more you practice catching these micro-moments, the faster you’ll recognize that hesitation is not a stop sign—it’s a sacred signal that transformation is near. Read my recent blog post on ‘Top 10 Ways to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself.’
2. Meet the Protector with Compassion
Rather than battling your inner resistance, begin to meet it with the tenderness of an old friend. Fear is rarely the enemy—it’s simply the mind’s way of saying, “I don’t feel safe yet.” Whisper to that part of you: “Thank you for keeping me safe all these years. I see you. But I’m safe now.” The nervous system softens the moment it feels acknowledged, and in that softening, the soul can rise to the surface again. Compassion disarms the inner critic faster than force ever could. You can’t bully yourself into expansion; you can only love yourself there.
3. Reground in Your Body
When resistance builds in the mind, the body always tells the truth. Close your eyes and take a slow, deep breath. Notice where your body feels tight or contracted—maybe in the throat, chest, or belly. That’s where energy is asking for movement. You don’t have to fix it; simply breathe light and awareness into that space. Imagine each breath creating more room for your soul to anchor into your physical form. Intuition doesn’t live in the mind—it lives in the body. When you reconnect with your felt sense, you naturally realign with flow, clarity, and the quiet wisdom that lives beneath thought.
4. Make Micro-Moves Toward Flow
Transformation doesn’t always require massive leaps; it often begins with small, courageous micro-moves. Big jumps can trigger the protector, but gentle, steady action builds trust between your mind and soul. Send the email. Sketch the idea. Speak one truth to a safe person. These small acts of movement signal to your nervous system, “It’s safe to move forward now.” Over time, small shifts compound into quantum change. The universe is responsive—it always meets you at the distance you’re willing to take. Each micro-move creates momentum, and that momentum becomes magnetic.
5. Turn Fear Into Fuel
What if fear isn’t a stop sign but a spark of power misinterpreted? The next time you feel fear arise, try asking, “What if this energy is power in disguise?” Physiologically, fear and excitement feel almost identical—the difference lies only in your interpretation. When you reframe fear as energy eager to be expressed, it transforms from a wall into a wave that carries you forward. The current that once froze you in place can become the very energy that propels your next breakthrough. Alchemy begins when you shift from resistance to resonance.
6. Rebuild the Bridge of Trust
Each time you honor a whisper from your intuition—no matter how small—you strengthen the bridge between your human self and your higher self. At first, those whispers might feel faint or fleeting. But with each moment of alignment, the connection grows stronger. The whispers become conversations; the conversations become a dialogue that feels like home. Over time, this trust becomes your greatest compass. Getting out of your own way ultimately means remembering that your soul already knows the way—you’re simply learning to listen again.
💙 Closing Reflection
Getting out of your own way isn’t about silencing the mind; it’s about teaching it to trust the wisdom of the heart.
Your mind keeps you alive — but your soul teaches you how to live.
Each time you step beyond the familiar and follow that subtle inner nudge, you’re not betraying your safety — you’re expanding your definition of it.
Safety no longer means “avoiding pain.” It becomes “being rooted in truth.”
So if you’ve been asking how to get out of your own way — maybe the first step is to stop fighting yourself.
Let the mind rest.
Let the energy move.
And let the soul lead the way home.
